Analysis of death is not for the sake of becoming fearful but to appreciate this precious lifetime.~ Dalia Lama
As an End-of-Life Doula, this quote encapsulates a lot of the work that I do with my clients, the dying.
So many people fear the inevitable event of death even when great thinkers and teachers of faith assure us that contemplation of death is worthwhile and important.
Very few people take a good, hard look at death while life moves along at its usual, predictable pace. However, very many people are forced to look squarely at death when a diagnosis of a terminal illness is in front of them.
This is hard.
But the last portion of one’s life can be a time for the strengthening of bonds, the reconciliation of regrets, and the mending of fences. Near-death is a unique opportunity to explore one’s feelings and thoughts about this inevitable path we are all on.
These conversations can be too much for family and friends. These conversations are not “too much” for an End-of-Life Doula. In fact, these conversations are transformative and healing with the right supports.